Step Three: “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”
For Enneagram Type 4 (The Individualist), Step Three in Overeaters Anonymous is about releasing the focus on emotional intensity and uniqueness and embracing the care and guidance of a Higher Power. Type 4s often use food to navigate their deep feelings of longing or inadequacy, seeking to fill a void or enhance their emotional experiences. Step Three invites Type 4s to surrender their will and lives to a Higher Power, finding solace in divine acceptance and wholeness rather than through external or emotional means.
Here’s how a Type 4 can work Step Three in Overeaters Anonymous:
- Release the Need to Define Identity Through Food:
- Type 4s often view their struggles, including with food, as part of their unique identity. This can lead to an unhealthy attachment to certain patterns or emotional eating. Step Three encourages them to let go of defining themselves through their relationship with food and trust in their Higher Power to shape their identity.
- By surrendering this attachment, Type 4s can find freedom in being loved for who they are, not for their perceived uniqueness or struggles.
Reflection question: “How has my relationship with food become tied to my sense of identity, and how can trusting my Higher Power help me find a deeper sense of self?”
- Trust That Wholeness Comes From Within:
- Type 4s often feel a sense of incompleteness or longing, which they may try to soothe with food. Step Three invites them to trust that their Higher Power can provide the wholeness they seek, without needing to turn to external solutions.
- By trusting their Higher Power, Type 4s can embrace a sense of completeness and love from within.
Reflection question: “How has my search for wholeness through food affected me, and how can I trust my Higher Power to provide the completeness I seek?”
- Let Go of Emotional Intensity Around Food:
- Type 4s often associate food with heightened emotional experiences, whether to amplify joy or soothe sorrow. Step Three encourages them to surrender the need for such intensity and trust their Higher Power to provide emotional balance.
- By releasing this pattern, Type 4s can develop a healthier, more balanced relationship with food and their emotions.
Reflection question: “How has my need for emotional intensity influenced my eating habits, and how can surrendering to my Higher Power help me find balance?”
- Embrace Acceptance Over Longing:
- Type 4s often experience a longing for something elusive, which can lead to overeating in an attempt to fill that void. Step Three invites them to accept their current reality and trust their Higher Power to guide them toward peace and contentment.
- By surrendering to their Higher Power, Type 4s can find a sense of belonging and satisfaction without needing to seek it externally.
Reflection question: “How has my longing for something more driven my eating habits, and how can trusting my Higher Power help me embrace acceptance and peace?”
Summary:
For Type 4s, working Step Three involves surrendering their attachment to emotional intensity, longing, and identity tied to food. By trusting in their Higher Power, Type 4s can find a deeper sense of self, balance, and wholeness that isn’t reliant on external factors. This step helps them move toward emotional acceptance and peace through divine guidance and love.