Step Three: “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.”
For Enneagram Type 3 (The Achiever), Step Three in Overeaters Anonymous involves letting go of the drive to perform and achieve in order to feel worthy and instead trusting in a Higher Power to define their value. Type 3s are often focused on success and external validation, which can lead to using food as a way to cope with stress or maintain energy for their pursuits. Step Three invites Type 3s to turn their will and lives over to a Higher Power, trusting in divine guidance and acceptance rather than their own achievements.
Here’s how a Type 3 can work Step Three in Overeaters Anonymous:
- Release the Need for External Validation:
- Type 3s often seek worth through accomplishments and recognition, which can lead to burnout and unhealthy eating habits. Step Three encourages them to surrender their need for external validation to a Higher Power, trusting that they are inherently valuable without having to prove it through achievements.
- By trusting their Higher Power, Type 3s can embrace their worth as intrinsic rather than performance-based.
Reflection question: “How has my drive for external validation affected my relationship with food, and how can trusting my Higher Power help me see my worth beyond achievements?”
- Trust That Rest Is Not Failure:
- Type 3s often equate rest or slowing down with failure or laziness, leading to overworking and turning to food for quick energy. Step Three invites them to trust that their Higher Power values balance and rest and that taking time to recharge is a sign of wisdom, not weakness.
- By turning their will over to their Higher Power, Type 3s can find permission to rest without guilt.
Reflection question: “How has my fear of resting impacted my health and relationship with food, and how can I trust my Higher Power to guide me toward balance?”
- Let Go of Image Management:
- Type 3s often focus on managing how they are perceived by others, which can lead to stress and using food as a way to cope or maintain appearances. Step Three encourages them to trust that their Higher Power sees and loves them for who they truly are, not for the image they project.
- By surrendering the need to control their image, Type 3s can develop a more authentic relationship with themselves and others.
Reflection question: “How has my focus on managing my image led to stress and unhealthy food habits, and how can trusting my Higher Power help me embrace authenticity?”
- Find Fulfillment Beyond Accomplishments:
- Type 3s often believe their fulfillment comes from accomplishments and success. This can lead to constant striving and neglect of emotional and physical needs. Step Three invites them to trust that true fulfillment comes from a connection with their Higher Power, not from external achievements.
- By surrendering their will, Type 3s can find a deeper sense of purpose and satisfaction beyond their accomplishments.
Reflection question: “How has my focus on accomplishments left me feeling unfulfilled, and how can trusting my Higher Power help me find true contentment?”
Summary:
For Type 3s, working Step Three involves surrendering their drive for success and external validation to a Higher Power. By trusting in divine love and guidance, Type 3s can release the need to constantly achieve and focus on their inherent worth and balance. This step helps them move away from performance-based self-worth and toward authenticity, rest, and deeper fulfillment through their Higher Power’s plan.