For Enneagram Type 2, working Step Two in Overeaters Anonymous means recognizing that their deep need to be loved and needed can’t be managed or fixed by their own efforts or through pleasing others. Type 2s may rely on food to fill the void of emotional deprivation, but Step Two asks them to believe that a Power greater than themselves can restore them to sanity and help them meet their own needs.

1. Admit That Love and Validation Can’t Be Gained Through Control:

Type 2s often use food as a way to cope with feelings of rejection or unworthiness, trying to control their emotions by giving to others and expecting love in return. Step Two asks them to admit that love and validation can’t be gained through control, and that a Higher Power can restore their sense of worth.

• Reflection question: “How have I used food to cope with feelings of rejection or a lack of appreciation, and how has this kept me from finding real peace?”

2. Recognize the Unmanageability of Over-Giving:

For Type 2s, the constant focus on others leads to self-neglect and an unhealthy relationship with food. Step Two asks them to recognize that over-giving is unmanageable, and that only a Higher Power can restore the balance they need in their lives.

• Reflection question: “How has my constant focus on helping others led to neglecting my own needs and an unmanageable relationship with food?”

3. Acknowledge That Healing Comes from Receiving, Not Just Giving:

Step Two encourages Type 2s to acknowledge that they need to receive love and care from others, including from a Higher Power. They can’t always be the giver, and true healing comes when they learn to accept help and support.

• Reflection question: “What would it feel like to receive care from others and trust in a Higher Power to restore my emotional and physical well-being?”

4. Surrender the Fear of Being Unlovable Without Service:

Type 2s often fear that they are unlovable unless they are constantly serving others. Step Two asks them to surrender this fear and believe that they are worthy of love and healing, even when they are not giving.

• Reflection question: “How has my fear of being unlovable driven my unhealthy relationship with food, and how can I surrender that fear?”

5. Trust in the OA Process and the Power of Self-Love:

For Type 2s, Step Two is about trusting the OA process and allowing themselves to prioritize their own self-love and care. Believing that a Higher Power can restore them to sanity helps them shift the focus from others to their own healing.

• Reflection question: “How can I trust that by allowing a Higher Power to help me, I can prioritize my own self-care without feeling guilty?”

Summary: Type 2s work Step Two by admitting that their need to give to others has led to an unmanageable relationship with food. By trusting in a Higher Power, they can receive the love and support they need to restore sanity in their lives and prioritize their own self-care.